Mental toughness bootcamp can sculpt great leaders

Charles Phiri
Associate: Indalo Business Consulting

The business rescue process is an emotional roller coaster that can result in a lot of disruption and the complete dismantling of the way that the company used to be run.

As we have seen in the past, the process of dismantling the existence of a company is the easy part of the equation, the difficult part is to rebuild the company so that it can return to a profitable core. This process is tiresome and can often be a heavy burden on the new leadership of the company who either don’t know anything about the company (if they recruited into a leadership position from another company), or they haven’t had any leadership experience (if they are promoted from within the company.

One of the hallmarks of a strong leader is mental fortitude. Can they show the mental toughness that is necessary to lead? I read an interesting article about a book that was written by Amy Morin. She writes that developing mental strength is a three-pronged approach. It’s about controlling your thoughts, behaviour’s, and emotions.

They don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves
“Feeling sorry for yourself is self-destructive,” Morin writes. “Indulging in self-pity hinders living a full life.” It wastes time, creates negative emotions, and hurts your relationships.

The key is to “affirm the good in the world, and you will begin to appreciate what you have,” she writes. The goal is to swap self-pity with gratitude.

They don’t give away their power
The article points out that people give away their power when they lack physical and emotional boundaries, Morin writes. You need to stand up for yourself and draw the line when necessary. If other people are in control of your actions, they define your success and self-worth. It’s important that you keep track of your goals and work toward them.

Morin uses Oprah Winfrey as an example of someone with a strong grip on their power. Winfrey grew up dealing with poverty and sexual abuse, but “she chose to define who she was going to be in life by not giving away her power.”

Shying away from change prevents growth
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They don’t shy away from change
The article adds that there are five stages of change, Morin writes: pre-contemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, and maintenance.

Following through with each of the five steps is crucial. Making changes can be frightening but shying away from them prevents growth. “The longer you wait, the harder it gets,” she says. “Other people will outgrow you.”

They don’t focus on things they can’t control
“It feels so safe to have everything under control, but thinking we have the power to always pull the strings can become problematic,” Morin writes. Trying to be in control of everything is likely a response to anxiety.

“Rather than focusing on managing your anxiety, you try controlling your environment,” she says. Shifting your focus off the things you can’t control can create increased happiness, less stress, better relationships, new opportunities, and more success.

They don’t worry about pleasing everyone
The article points out that often we judge ourselves by considering what other people think of us, which is the opposite of mental toughness. Morin lists four facts about constantly trying to be a people-pleaser: It’s a waste of time; people-pleasers are easily manipulated; it’s OK for others to feel angry or disappointed; and you can’t please everyone.

Dropping your people-pleasing mindset will make you stronger and more self-confident.

They don’t fear taking calculated risks
People are often afraid to take risks, whether financial, physical, emotional, social, or business-related, Morin says. But it comes down to knowledge. “A lack of knowledge about how to calculate risk leads to increased fear,” Morin writes.

The article adds that to better analyse a risk, ask yourself the following questions.

  • What are the potential costs?
  • What are the potential benefits?
  • How will this help me achieve my goal?
  • What are the alternatives?
  • How good would it be if the best-case scenario came true?
  • What is the worst thing that could happen, and how could I reduce the risk it will occur?
  • How bad would it be if the worst-case scenario did come true?
  • How much will this decision matter in five years?

They don’t dwell on the past

The article points out that the past is in the past. There’s no way to change what happened, and “dwelling can be self-destructive, preventing you from enjoying the present and planning for the future,” Morin writes. It doesn’t solve anything, and can lead to

depression, she writes.

There can be a benefit to thinking about the past, though. Reflecting on the lessons learned, considering the facts rather than the emotions, and looking at a situation from a new perspective can be helpful, she says.

They don’t make the same mistakes over and over
Reflecting can ensure you don’t repeat your mistakes. It’s important to study what went wrong, what you could have done better, and how to do it differently next time, Morin writes.

Mentally strong people accept responsibility for the mistake and create a thoughtful, written plan to avoid making the same mistake in the future.

They don’t resent other people’s success
The article adds that resentment is like anger that remains hidden and bottled up, Morin writes. Focusing on another person’s success will not pave the way to your own, since it distracts you from your path.

Even if you become successful, you may never be content if you’re always focusing on others. You may also overlook your talents and abandon your values and relationships.

They don’t give up after the first failure
Success isn’t immediate, and failure is almost always an obstacle you will have to overcome. “Take, for example, Theodor Geisel — also known as Dr. Seuss — whose first book was rejected by more than 20 publishers,” Morin says. Dr. Seuss is now a household name.

The article points out that thinking that failure is unacceptable or that it means you aren’t good enough does not reflect mental strength. In fact, “bouncing back after failure will make you stronger,” Morin writes.

Failure is almost always an obstacle you will have to overcome
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They don’t fear alone time
“Creating time to be alone with your thoughts can be a powerful experience, instrumental in helping you reach your goals,” Morin writes. Becoming mentally strong “requires you to take time out from the busyness of daily life to focus on growth.”

Here are some of the benefits of solitude:

  • Solitude at the office can increase productivity;
  • Alone time may increase your empathy;
  • Spending time alone sparks creativity;
  • Solitary skills are good for mental health; and
  • Solitude offers restoration.

They don’t feel the world owes them anything
The article points out that it is easy to get angry at the world for your failures or lack of success, but the truth is that no one is entitled to anything; it must be earned.

“Life isn’t meant to be fair,” Morin says. If some people experience more happiness or success than others, “that’s life — but it doesn’t mean you’re owed anything if you were dealt a bad hand.”

The key is to focus on your efforts, accept criticism, acknowledge your flaws, and don’t keep score, Morin writes. Comparing yourself with others will only set you up for disappointment if you don’t receive what you think you’re owed.

They don’t expect immediate results
“A willingness to develop realistic expectations and an understanding that success doesn’t happen overnight is necessary if you want to reach your full potential,” Morin writes. Mentally weak people are often impatient. They overestimate their abilities and underestimate how long change takes, she says, so they expect immediate results.

It’s important to “keep your eyes on the prize” and relentlessly work toward your long-term goals. There will be failures along the way, but if you measure your progress and look at the big picture, success will become attainable.

The role of BRPs
BRPs have the advantage of going into a distressed company and conducting an independent business review process that will diagnose the changes that need to take place within a company in order for it to return to profitability.

They also have the advantage of being able to look for leaders who have the necessary qualities that are required to run a business in an environment that is driven by risk. This can be developed over time as mental toughness is not something that a person is born with, it is developed.

When the great sculptor Michelangelo was working on one of his great masterpieces, someone asked him how he got the inspiration to create the pieces that he did. He replied: the masterpiece is in the stone, I just have to clear away the edges.

Charles Phiri is an Associate at Indalo Business Consulting.